Bad Habits in Relationships

Relationships fail less often from a lack of love than from a set of small repeated behaviors that each look survivable on any given day — and don't survive together. The piece names the six patterns that do the most damage: jealousy as a background process, selective hearing, dependency creep, the destructive argument family, and the nagging loop that belongs to the pair instead of one partner.

Each pattern gets its structure broken down and a specific repair that works on the pattern rather than the incident, plus the mistake of targeting the partner instead of the loop. Sell it to anyone writing about relationship maintenance as your own.